April Newsbyte

April NEWSBYTE

 Dear Friends

 

I hope this Newsbyte  finds you all well and happy!

A full description of courses on the website.

Click: Calendar 2016

 

All Past Tips

Tip o’ the Day below

When does love become control?

Diary:

I had hoped we would start the building of the new block as early as mid-June, but everything is taking a month of Sundays. We are still waiting for the structural engineer’s report which determines the mechanics of the building. It is such a thin and tall building, there’s a danger it could be just blown over! I’d like to put my trust in the Dhamma, but I think a bit of realistic anchoring may also be needed.

I’m back now on the teaching trail. Bit like getting out of bed in the morning (at least for me), but once you’re up, it’s fun - generally.

Announcement:

See calendar below of Assistant places. Scroll down to Resident Assistant.

 

Noirin is offering another on-line course starting in June. This year the subject is the Brahma Vihara: Goodwill, Compassion, Joy and Equanimity. She will focus on ways of cultivating these in daily life. It will run for 5 weeks and is open to anyone booking a retreat at Satipanya this year. A second course will start in October. To register or for further information contact Noirin at noirinsheahan@gmail.com

 

Will Dickie writes: Bhante has contributed through interview to a new piece of performance art made by one of Satipanya's very own meditators – yours truly. It’s called The Rave Space, and after travelling to Glasgow next weekend, I shall be the London Shambhala Meditation Centre in Clapham - April 14th at 7.30pm. I am very keen for our community to experience the work, which is looking at the spiritual search, and those things beyond words.

You can book a free ticket and get more info from his website: http://www.willdickie.co.uk/TheRaveSpace.htm

 

Some of you will know Rob Burbea and even worked with him. He took over from me as resident teacher at Gaia House. He is battling with pancreatic cancer and supporters want to try other therapies. You can find out more from the website. www.robburbea.com/donating 

 

Karuna Book: Every morning at puja we call the names of those who a sick /dying or having a hard time. 

Mudita Book: Every evening at puja we call the names of those who have something to rejoice about.

The Complete Calendar for 2016

Assistants Needed

N.B. All the courses are serviced by assistants.

As an assistant, we do not expect payment of the deposit because you have kindly offered your time.

And as usual any dana by you is entirely in your gift.

However, your commitment is essential, for the course would be very difficult to run without an assistant and may indeed have to be cancelled.

 

If you are interested, follow this link: Course Assistant

 

For info. about Retreats and teachers see website www.satipanya.org.uk

See drop down menus: especially About Us, Teachings and Retreats

 

Would you like to come and assist on a course?

Scroll down to see where we need you.

 

All Retreats run by Bhante Bodhidhamma

unless otherwise stated

Click on names for bio.

New Year Retreat

09 -17 January

Assistant: Jim Tibby

The usual schedule and format – see website.

  

Day Retreat

Assistant : Hamish Donaldson : Susie Wynn Wilson

Kick Start/Top up

Sat. 12 March

Arrive 09.30. Finish 17.00

Please bring food to share.

 

Easter Mahasi Retreat

Assistant : Jim Tibby

Sat. 19 March – Sun 03 April

The usual schedule and format – see website.

 

Mahasi Retreat

Places Available

 Guus Went

Assistant : Bert Gijsbers

Sat.09 – Sat. 16 April

‘Sayadaw U Pandita's definition of Mindfulness: Mindfulness is the observing power of the mind, which clearly and simply experiences an object, without reacting to it. We start actively to develop this power with the body as primary object. That makes it possible not to get fully entangled in the hindrances and to come to know something about them. Sitting meditation, walking meditation and daily activities are fully equal in importance. Gradually we come to know other objects of meditation, both internally and externally.’

 

 Contemplative Vesakha Retreat

Celebrating the Life of the Buddha

Places Available

Bhante Bodhidhamma

Assistant : Robert Narayan-Taylor

Sat. 23 -April – Sun. 01  May

Usual Mahasi schedule

with option to reflect and read.

 Taking Refuges and Precepts Ceremony

On Saturday 30 April

Please bring veggie food to join us for communal lunch at noon.

Ceremony starts 13.30

Talk: Where there’s suffering, there’s the end of it.

 

Mahasi Weeklong Retreat

Places Available

Noirin Sheahan

Assistant : Mary Stuart

Sat. 07 – Sun. 15 May

The usual schedule and format – see website.

Vipassana means “Seeing clearly”. When we see the world as it really is, we will be free from the distress that comes from identifying with a limited view of who and what we are.

During the retreat, we relax from all our usual busyness to give our full attention to present experience.  We learn to see the world more clearly, and to disentangle the knots of confusion that bind us to emotional turmoil.  At precious moments, the heart opens and we may sense what it means to be free.

 

Mahasi Weeklong Retreat

Places Available

Sat. 21 – Sun.29 May

Noirin Sheahan

Assistant : Mark Blaxland

The usual schedule and format – see website.

 

Mahasi Weeklong Retreat

Places Available

Noirin Sheahan

Assistant :Wendy Harvey

Sat. 18 – Sun. 26 June

The usual schedule and format – see website.

 

Summer Mahasi Retreat

Places Available

Bhante Bodhidhamma

Assistants : Needed

Eleven week roll-on, roll-off Retreat.

Minimum stay eight nights.

Start dates: Saturdays:-

02 & 16 & 30 July; 13 & 27 Aug. 10 Sept.

Finishing Sun. 18  Sept

N.B. Start restricted to listed Saturdays.

Alternate Sun. possible for Mahasi devotees.

A challenging Retreat easily modified for beginners.

See Beginner’s Testimonials on website.

You are encouraged to stay for more than one week.

Assistants : Needed

Starting and ending on following Saturday.

02 – 16 July : Matthias Wicki

16 July – 30 July : Assistant : Needed

30 July – 13 August : Assistant : Ulla Mergen

13 – 27 August: Assistant : Needed

27 August – 10 September: Assistant : Nick Taylor

10 – 18 (Sunday) September: Assistant : Nick Taylor

 

Sangha Day : Ninth Anniversary

Saturday 17 September

Assistant : Needed

Please bring veggie food to join us for communal lunch at noon.

Ceremony starts 13.30

Talk: To be announced.

 

Mahasi Two Week Retreat

Places Available

Sat. 24 Oct.  – Sun. 09 October

Noirin Sheahan

Preference given to those who want to stay two weeks.

Assistant : Therese Caherty

The usual schedule and format – see website.

 

Day Retreat

Saturday 15 October

Local Assistant : Needed

Carl Fooks

 Kick Start/Top

Arrive 09.30. Finish 17.00

Please bring food to share.

 

Weekend Retreat 

Places Available

Fri. 21 – Sun. 23 p.m. October

Carl Fooks

Assistants : Needed

See usual  Schedules

 

Autumn Mahasi Retreat

Places Available

                                                                         29 Oct. – 20 Nov.

Bhante Bodhidhamma

Assistant(s) : Needed

Preference is given to those who wish to stay for the full three weeks.

The usual schedule and format – see website.

 

Day Retreat

Kick Start/Top up

Saturday 03 December

Local Assistant : Needed

Arrive 09.30. Finish 17.00

Please bring food to share.

 

Xmas Retreat

Places Available

Fri. 23 – Tues. 27 December

Assistant : Needed

N.B. This retreat is reserved for those who have completed a Retreat as Satipanya.

The first day will be a normal retreat schedule though we shall rise at 5.30.

An opportunity to make it a day of fasting

in solidarity with the one in nine people undernourished and starving.

The second day, Xmas Day, is a contemplative day

looking at the qualities of gratitude, renunciation and generosity.

During a group event, you will be asked to speak 

about an event which manifests the goodness of mankind.

The third day is communal. There is a walk – weather permitting.

Xmas menu will be close to the traditional veggie fare - a set menu!

 

New Year Retreat

Places Available

Thurs. 29 December to Mon. 02 January

Assistant : Needed

 N.B. This retreat is reserved for those who have completed a Retreat as Satipanya.

The first day will be a normal retreat schedule though we shall rise at 5.30.

An opportunity to make it a day of fasting

in solidarity with the one in nine people undernourished and starving.

On the second day, the Eve, we will see in the New Year.

During a group event, you will be asked to tell us about an event which has had a effect upon you - international, national or local or personal.

We hope to have a bonfire.

A day to reflect on the past year, plenty of time to oneself.

Retreatants will be asked to say a little about an virtuous event chosen by them.

The third day, New Years Day, is communal with a walk – weather permitting.

 

When does love become control?

The Buddha points out that there comes with the sense of self a desire to control. The self feels safe when it is in control.

 

And why do we want to control? Is it not that it is necessary for us to gratify an unwholesome desire in order to feel happy. This strong desire is often called a ‘need’, though a ‘need’ really ought to be applied to something essential – food and sleep on a physical level, for instance. Such unwholesome ‘needs’ include anything we feel controls us– need for praise, for success; for sex, for romance – even addiction to drugs and porn.

 

This need, that has become so essential for my happiness, stems from a lack of self-love, self-acceptance. A deficit of inner worthiness. A want of dignity.

 

And such is the strength of the desire it cannot see anything but from the vantage point of ‘me’. In other words, it very much becomes a definition who ‘I’ am. At the point where a desire, take it or leave it, becomes a desire I need to fulfil, the other becomes the ‘one’ to fulfil that ‘need’. If the other can’t or won’t do that, then there comes the need to control.

 

All sorts of tactics are employed: anger, withdrawal of services, silence, ignoring. Blackmail – if you don’t .. I will. Petty spite. Threats of revenge. Threats of self-harm, suicide.  Accusations of not really loving me. Anything to bully them into doing what we want them to do.

This way we can control children, friends, workmates, partners and spouses and all the rest of our relationships.

 

So paradoxically such unskilful needs that control us drive us to control others to fulfil them. And the more we feed them, the more they demand. It’s a vicious circle.

 

It’s not that we don’t love the other. We show that when we treat the other as equal to us, not there to serve us, yet they may do so. Just as we are not there to serve them, yet we may do so. 

 

We will know when our love is turning into control by our reactions whenever the other person refuses any of our requests. Can we hold still? 

Wait for the unwholesome state to pass. Communicate with the other as other. If unable to, to postpone – let’s talk later.

 

And to find the time to contemplate our unwholesome ‘needs’ and resist their demands. At least then we feel we are gaining back freedom from these compulsions.

 

But it is often the case that all we have to do is allow the need to manifest, hold it in kindness, let it speak its feelings without words. Wait for the turbulence to exhaust itself.

 

The heart knows how to comfort itself. It knows how to heal itself.

 

Books:

Encouragements to Awakening : Books are now available from Wisdom Books.

This booklet is being kept at Wisdom Books who very generously will only charge you postage.

Towards the End of Forgiveness (Angulimala Monologue) ‘Sold out’, but can be downloaded from the website: Towards the End of Forgiveness

If you haven't been on Wisdom Book's website, it's worth exploring it. They are THE distributors of Buddhist books in UK. Type in Bodhidhamma in search box to find the books: Wisdom Books

Both are also available as PDF files for eReaders etc. Books

 

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